Your men's group is the place to go to begin to examine your issues and to heal your inner wounds - a lot of healing takes place just by talking about what is going on for us.
Sometimes this is not enough; sometimes group itself may seem to bring up issues we didn't know we had - sometimes.
WE MAY EXPERIENCE OVERWHELMING FEELINGS OF ANGER, RAGE, SADNESS, DEPRESSION, LOSS, BETRAYAL and so on.
Sometimes group may not help us move through these feelings - in fact if group is bringing these up we may need to take a time-out from group if there is any danger of 'losing it' or being unable to cope. Maybe you feel as though you just need to take better care of yourself, see Appendix 1. On the other hand, beware of isolating, sometimes we need to be around sympathetic people who are prepared to listen and share time, now more than ever, and not just drugged into numbness, the quick-fix of choice for many medical practitioners who 'work' with people suffering emotional disturbances.
IF YOU ARE BEING OVERWHELMED BY YOUR FEELINGS IN ANY WAY, AND IT SEEMS AS IF YOU CAN'T COPE, THERE ARE MANY PROFESSIONALS AND OTHERS AVAILABLE TO HELP YOU - YOUR SAFETY NET - BUT IF YOU DON'T PICK UP THE PHONE FIRST. IT'S AS IF THE SAFETY NET BELOW DOESN'T EXIST…
REMEMBER: IT IS OK TO ASK FOR HELP!
IN FACT, MAKE IT YOUR RIGHT; BUT IT MAY NOT HAPPEN ON THE FIRST CALL, OR THE SECOND, BUT KEEP TRYING ANYWAY - DON'T TAKE NO FOR AN ANSWER, KEEP TRYING AND YOU WILL GET WHAT YOU NEED.
Fill in the phone numbers below where there are blanks, this is your safety net; sometimes one person may not have the time, the next one will - or ask if they can set some time aside for you. Don't fall through the cracks…
Friends & understanding relatives you can talk to
Local crisis centres, referrals
7) (604) 872 3311 Vancouver
8) (604) 279 7070 Richmond
9) (604) 540 2221 Coquitlam
Men's organizations, and magazines
10) (604) 290 9988 Vancouver
11) (250) 370 4636 Victoria
12) (206) 285 4356 USA
For abused men
13) 1 (800) 583 9949
14) (604) 682 6482 Vancouver
15) (604) 875 6381 Counsellor referrals- check phone books or magazines eg Common Ground, Shared Vision
Family Services; counselling and programs - anger management etc
16) 1 (800) 668 7808 Canada wide
17) (604) 731 4951 Vancouver
18) (604) 279 7100 Richmond
Your doctor or walk in clinics-24hr? -Psychiatric referrals
Hospitals - go to 'Emergency' (24hr) for severe emotional distress or disturbance
22) (604) 875 4111 Vancouver
23) (604) 434 4211 Burnaby
24) (604) 581 2211 Surrey
Other-see phone books eg Social service agencies; Self-help groups for addictions
-AA - Alcoholics Anon.
Coda - Codependents Anon.
Gamblers Anon, etc;