Note - this meeting requires some preparation - bring large sheets of paper and markers
The basic structure of this meeting is the same as Meeting 1.1 - refer back for more information.
Some issues may have come up during check-in that the group may wish to spend more time on rather than moving straight into the 'focus'; or perhaps some issue is still to be dealt with from the previous week. When it is appropriate the leader moves the group into the main focus for this meeting.
5) The Big Bit in the middle - the leader announces the focus of the meeting
"One of the things that will assist 'group process' and help define what this group is about is a Mission Statement. So what are we here to do? Why are we here? What does your picture or vision of a successful group look like? Each of us individually should attempt to answer these questions."
"This is a good opportunity to listen to each others ideas and wants - to allow each man here to participate in defining what this group is about."
"When each of us has had a chance to share our ideas, we can work together to create a Mission Statement that attempts to reflect the main ideas expressed by the men in this group."
When discussion is complete and agreement reached the 'leader' should write down the Mission Statement -for future reference - and to tell new men as they join.
One technique to use requires some preparation beforehand - Brainstorming - need a (several) large sheets of paper and markers to write down ideas as men express them - encourage ideas from each man until we've gone around the circle a few times - then when every one has had an opportunity to participate in expressing individual ideas - attempt to create phrases by joining the ideas together - then attempt to join those phrases together to create the group's mission statement.
This process may take more than one meeting!
Encourage each man may work on it between meetings and bring to group his suggestions.
Some men may not have returned for the second meeting - they may have not felt secure enough to continue - they may not be ready to deal with their issues - they may not have liked someone else in the group, or perhaps the 'energy' was wrong - or they decided to take an evening class instead or whatever… We could keep on guessing, sometimes they may even call and tell us, but the important thing is to not 'take it on'. We may simply accept that this is a journey they do not wish to take. Or maybe they missed their bus and show up the next week! In the moment we may wish to accept that each man is doing what he thinks is right for him as his perception and awareness allows.
The 'leader' for this meeting should announce who has called ahead to say he can't make it, if someone hasn't arrived on time you may wish to wait 5 or 10 minutes, but not any longer than that. If you were expecting someone and he didn't arrive for the meeting, it is a good idea to call him before the next meeting to ascertain his situation.
As the group gets established over the weeks ahead, commitment levels become apparent, and the group will try to discuss and agree on appropriate attendance frequency. Regular attendance obviously will assist 'group process' - if 'key players' in an issue absent themselves this can prevent the group from moving ahead/resolving issues. It will take a bigger effort to 'get back' to where you were if too many weeks have elapsed in between. In fact, being absent can be used as an avoidance tactic and may be intentional. This can be very difficult to deal with.