Meeting 2-2
Focus: Fathers

The basic structure of this meeting is the same as Meeting 1.1 - refer back for more information.

Some issues may have come up during check-in that the group may wish to spend more time on rather than moving straight into the 'focus'; or perhaps some issue is still to be dealt with from the previous week. When it is appropriate the leader moves the group into the main focus for this meeting.

5) The Big Bit in the middle - the leader announces the focus of the meeting

Focus: Fathers

Explore! (see exercises)



Exercises

  1. Describe your father - physically - what physical interaction did you have with him?
    How do you think that has influenced your life?
  2. Describe your father - emotionally - what emotional interaction did you have with him?
    How do you think that has influenced your life?
  3. Describe your fathers experience of life.
    What lessons, if any, did he teach you?
    Did he draw from his own experience?
  4. How was he excluded from your life?
    What choices did he make that impacted you?
    How was he included into your life?
  5. Share high points and low points in your relationship with your father.
  6. How well do you know your father?
    Do you know what his father was like? Have you asked him?
    Do you know what their relationship was like? Have you asked him/them?
  7. Were there other men in your life who played a fatherly role or gave you masculine guidance?
  8. If you could change and improve your relationship with your father, consider how you might do that.
  9. If you are a father, describe your relationship with your son or daughter. How is it the same as, or different from, your relationship with your father? What do you think they want/need from you that you might not be giving? What one thing could you do to 'make it different'?
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Notes for Meeting 2-2

This may take more than one meeting.

Any meeting that focuses on father issues may bring up strong feelings - some of us may have been abused by our fathers, physically, emotionally, sexually. We need a strong container to hold these revelations, a safe-space - our consciousness may change as we go into core issues - one man may be ready for his 'descent' into that dark place - but it may freak another man out - as much as we can, if we can ritualise this process by opening and closing ceremonies eg drumming, meditating, chanting (something physical preferably to move the energy) then it will help enclose the space, help us all to be 'present' and help us all to move out of that space at the end.