Meeting 3-2
Focus: Confidentiality

The basic structure of this meeting is the same as Meeting 1.1 - refer back for more information.

Some issues may have come up during check-in that the group may wish to spend more time on rather than moving straight into the 'focus'; or perhaps some issue is still to be dealt with from the previous week. When it is appropriate the leader moves the group into the main focus for this meeting.

5) The Big Bit in the middle - the leader announces the focus of the meeting

Focus: Confidentiality

"As we get to know each other more, we will start revealing aspects of ourselves that are sensitive and private, things we may not have revealed to anyone else before, things that we may not wish to be revealed to others outside this group."

"In group work, part of developing trust and a feeling of safety comes from the confidence that whatever we share at group is kept confidential. In fact our ability to do our 'work' ie working through our emotional issues is based on this trust."

"It can be a shattering experience, and is a violation of trust, to discover that intimate details shared in confidence have been released to an outside party."

"The group needs to discuss, understand and find agreement on what is to be kept confidential, and what is ok to reveal to an outside party".

When discussion is complete and agreement reached the 'leader' should write down the confidentiality agreement - for future reference - and to tell new men as they join.

Confidentiality Agreement

Notes for Meeting 3-2

It is always a good idea to discuss what levels of confidentiality each man requires. Some men may specifically say, at they begin to get into an issue, that they want what they are about to reveal held strictly confidential. In any case it is a good idea for any group to have a general understanding/agreement on confidentiality. Some men may like to know how much can they reveal in a private therapy session… Or perhaps how much should a man discuss of group process to friends or partner? Some men will be more sensitive to this issue than others.