Meeting 3-4
Focus: Conscious Agreements

The basic structure of this meeting is the same as Meeting 1.1 - refer back for more information.

Some issues may have come up during check-in that the group may wish to spend more time on rather than moving straight into the 'focus'; or perhaps some issue is still to be dealt with from the previous week. When it is appropriate the leader moves the group into the main focus for this meeting.

5) The Big Bit in the middle - the leader announces the focus of the meeting

Focus: Conscious Agreements

"This group, and all groups or associations, are based on agreements. The group may stand or fall simply by how conscious it can make agreement. After all, aren't we 'agreeing' to come together and be a group in the first place? But what does that mean? What are we agreeing to do, or be, as a group? (See Meeting on Mission Statement - Read it out to the group)."

"What's happening when we decide, as individuals, to come into agreement?

  • We're saying we have a common purpose- that we'll work towards it together.
  • We're saying that we will extend respect and regard to others by keeping our agreements."

"As we do work towards our common purpose or vision, we see each man 'keeping his word', or agreement, and trust develops based on the observed integrity of each man - 'he's a man of his word'."

"Unity and group process stands on this foundation stone - agreement."

Note: this discussion extends to group process, ie how the group wants to run itself; obviously men will have differing opinions/attitudes/ideas and don't have to agree about everything!

Exercises

  1. What agreements does the group have? - What do they mean to you?
  2. What other agreements do you have, in jobs, relationships etc? Why?
  3. What governs our inter-relations? The law? Manners? Common sense? Roles & Expectations? What agreements do we have here - conscious?
  4. What agreements do you have with yourself? Why?
  5. What happens when agreements are broken? (in your experience…)

Focus: Conscious Agreements

Which of our agreements require a response from the group if they're broken. Under what circumstances would a man be excluded from group? What other responses are available?